17-Dec-2012
"Most
people assume that Christmas is hardest for children who've stopped believing
in Santa Claus. But I think the holidays are the most difficult for those who
have experienced a recent loss, through death or divorce, particularly if this is
the first or second holiday after their world has been torn asunder.” – SARAH BAN
BREATHNACK from the book SIMPLE ABUNDANCE: A DAYBOOK OF COMFORT AND JOY (14DEC)
I totally
agree because during this time of the year, Mama and I, are so busy packing
Christmas presents, ingredients for fruit salad are prepared in the cupboard,
Noche Buena menu is already planned, and both of us are exhausted from prying
and getting hints of what Christmas gift to give to each other. I guess these
were the past Christmas rituals that I treasured so much but because of Mama’s
passing, became too painful to continue or even reminisce. Just like Sarah, I longed
for the reassuring rhythm that our rituals brought me. I hope and pray that one
day, when I look back and recall our Christmas rituals, they will not bring me
pain or bitterness. Instead, I can continue and create new rituals that will bring
me comfort and joy just as how I felt when my family is complete…when Mama and
Papa is still with us.
